Self-confidence is understanding your worth and embracing your true potential. Building up your self-esteem can keep you motivated and help you significantly boost your performance in everything you do. It allows you to take calculated risks and grasp opportunities as they present themselves.
We consulted the experts for tips, and here are all the ways you can boost your self-confidence starting right now.
1. Prevent Negative Thoughts and Replace With Positive Ones
Your brain is incredible: virtually limitless information storage, processing speeds upwards of 260 mph, over 100,000 neurons in a tissue sample the size of a single grain of sand. Your brain hosts the world’s most powerful tech. Your thoughts have power. In fact, your thoughts are so powerful that your brain treats thinking and doing the same way. Just thinking about an action causes the same motor neurons to fire as actually doing the action.
The thinking/doing also applies to your fight-or-flight response. You know, that shaky-legs-dry-mouth-sweaty-palms-forgot-your-own-name business that starts when you face a presentation, sales pitch, faculty meeting, holiday at your in-laws… The more negative self-talk you do, the stronger the response becomes – until you find yourself in the Target parking lot, white-knuckling the steering wheel of your parked SUV, and sweating through your shirt because you thought about the presentation you’re giving at work- next month. Or you are talking yourself right out of starting your business, going on a first date, or applying for that promotion before you’ve even started. The key to overcoming this is to rewire the brain to connect more positively to whatever it is that scares you – to move from fear to confidence. The brain loves repetition and emotional connection, especially to things it deems ‘good’ for us. So, when a negative thought arises, stop it, and replace it with its positive opposite. “I hate public speaking; I always forget what I want to say and make a fool of myself” becomes; “I love public speaking, I always stay on track and deliver my entire message with confidence.” Repeating this new, positive statement aloud can literally retrain the brain and body to be more confident.
Jessica Doyle is a teaching instructor and researcher in the School of Theatre & Dance at East Carolina University.
2. Focus On What You Can Control
So much of our lives is out of our control, yet we stress and wonder ‘what if’ constantly. When we realize what is out of our realm of influence, we can not only be more settled (and less stressed), but we can take the step-by-step action needed to move from a place of reaction to action. As a result, we’ll naturally become more grounded and confident in who we are.
3. Pay Attention To Your Gifts
You can easily build confidence when you lean into your gifts. Sometimes when we’re faced with difficult moments/situations, we tend to have a ‘flight or fight’ response. When we take a deep breath and remind ourselves what we’re good at, we can better respond in difficult moments, as well as potentially influence and support others along the way too.
4. Be Present In The Moment
You can build confidence when you stop comparing and focus on the current moment. When you live in the present, you’ll quickly realize that nothing (not even your next breath) is guaranteed. This means you have to be in the moment and do the best that you can, trusting that the cards will play out how they are meant to. This helps you to learn to trust yourself and be confident that how you’re moving through life is in the best way that you can.
5. Get Vulnerable And Express Emotion Freely
Ironically, when we are vulnerable, we actually grow in our confidence, self-love, and truth. Vulnerability is powerful (despite the negative connotation). When we allow ourselves to be open and transparent, those around us will follow suit. This brings people together and also builds deeper connections (especially as we realize we are far more alike than we are different). Plus, expressing emotion is healthy and builds long-term resilience.
Marisa Donnelly, Content Writer, Creative Strategist + Coach
6. Find What You Are Good At
Being a traveler, confidence and self-belief is a must. But it doesn’t come overnight. It starts with faith: faith in yourself! And this comes when you know what qualities you have. Ask yourself what you’re good at. Remember, everyone is good at something. And if you don’t know, take this opportunity to find what you’re good at. This helps you bring self-worth and something to strive for.
Axel Hernborg, CEO of Tripplo
7. Practicing Self-Compassion
Self-compassion or self-love enables people to suffer less and teaches them to thrive. Research finding says that self-compassion reduces anxiety and depression and improves self-confidence. When you stop self-criticizing, learn to accept your weaknesses and mistakes, it brings mental peace.
Self-compassion is one essential quality we all need when we are busy chasing our dreams. Self-compassion is showing ourselves some kindness. Self-compassion is not about pushing the negative feelings away; instead, you embrace negative emotions with positivity that builds your psychological strength.
According to experts, self-compassion brings greater well-being, which reduces anxiety and depression. With better-coping skills, you build better emotional strength.
Tips to practice self-compassion;
- Stop self-criticizing, learn to accept mistakes
- Forgive yourself
- Be mindful
- Express gratitude every day for the things you have
- Look in the mirror and smile at yourself, love yourself, and hold confidence
Dr. Rashmi Byakodi, a health and wellness writer and the editor of Best for Nutrition
8. Understanding Your True Potential
In my opinion, my top tips for building your confidence and understanding your true potential are:
- List your achievements no matter how small they might seem.
- Always try your best; you’re never going to regret giving it your best shot.
- Identify your strengths and use them to motivate yourself
- Spend time with people that do make you feel good about yourself, avoid people who bring you down or highlight your imperfections
- Stand proud of the decisions that you make, even if others disagree with them
- If you fall, don’t stay there too long; pick yourself up and try again
- Don’t compare yourself to others; no one is perfect
- Remember that no one can dictate how you feel about yourself apart from yourself.
- Stay positive and remember that anything can happen if you believe in it strongly enough
Granted, confidence will give you the courage to do whatever you want, but sometimes it’s good to remember that not everything worth having comes easy.
Katherine Brown, the Founder & Marketing Director Spyic
9. Stop Comparing
Don’t keep comparing yourself to other people and measuring your worth on the basis of how others are; you are your own person, and only you should define yourself.
10. Build an Uplifting Circle
Keep a positive circle, which inspires you to be a better version of yourself.
11. Re-center your Focus
Stop focusing on the results and recenter your focus on your efforts. As the cliché says, “it’s the effort that counts”. This is easier said than done but taking small steps to appreciate the work you put in, even if it is just to exist, will slowly lead to the path of believing in yourself.
12. Indulge in Self-Care
Self-care doesn’t mean putting your favorite movie on and having ice-cream with it. Improve your sleeping schedule, ensure intake of a proper and balanced diet, exercise, or go on walks, and you can also meditate if you like.
13. Be Nice to Yourself
Cut back on those self-deprecating jokes and be kinder to yourself. Turn those “couldn’t be me”, “I could never do that ” into “maybe if I tried, I won’t be so bad at it, it’s worth a shot”. Developing a positive inner narrative helps develop self-compassion and overcome self-doubt.
14. Take Up Challenges
As unnerving as it may be to take up things that scare you, thinking, “What’s the worst that could go wrong?” and taking up challenges can help instill in you a belief of “I can do it.”
15. Remember Nobody’s Perfect
Even your idols, who you look up to, aren’t perfect, and even they had to go through a journey of self-doubt and criticism. We’re all humans, and if they can do it, so can you.
Shagoon Maurya, Practicing Counseling Psychologist, and Psychotherapist, and Founder of ursafespace.com
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